The woman you’re dating should enrich your life. In fact, she should make it so amazing, that you can’t wait to marry her. Have you found the woman you should marry? While everyone is looking for different traits in their life partners, there are some essential traits you should seek, from empathy to consistency. These traits help you both to understand and love each other.
- Check out seven signs she is the one you should marry.
- She challenges you intellectually.
If you seek to spend the rest of your life with someone, it is important that you find that person intellectually challenging and mentally stimulating. It goes without saying: looks are fleeting but personality is forever—your conversations together should be interesting, insightful and full of depth. Your partner should be able to challenge your opinions, opening up your mind to new ideas and concepts.
- You share the same values.
You both want the same type of relationship, you know where you both stand on having children, and your goals for the future are the same. If you want to work until you’re 100, so does she. If you want to retire early and eat only pudding for the rest of your life, she’s cool with that. Shared values also play an important part in training and raising children.
- You want to be with her.
You hear stories from your friends about how they love being single, or they dread seeing their wives. Maybe your single friends talk about how they don’t want to give up the bachelor life. Your coupled friends say they work late just to avoid spending quality time with their significant others. But you don’t feel that way. Being with her never gets old. You want to be with her as much as you can. Wife that lady now!!!
- You trust her.
Loyalty is the coin of the realm in marriage. You are sure that she’s loyal, loyal to you, your cause and what you both have. You know she’s your ride or die, lady. She’d never cheat on you because she loves you too much. She could be on a girl’s trip for days in a faraway location and you know you have nothing to worry about. She’s there when you need her and she makes you a priority.
- She doesn’t try to change you.
This is equally important as most ladies believe erroneously that they can change a man, especially after marriage. Before you take her to the altar, ensure that she loves you for what you are and does seek to change you. She knows every messed up, weirdo thing you do when you sleep and when you’re awake and when you’re tired and when you’re cranky, and she’s down with all of it in a way that you weren’t sure anyone ever would be.
- She has ambition.
As well as supporting your dreams and goals, the woman you marry should have her own dreams and ambitions too. She will look to her future regularly and plan how to improve her life, rather than depending on you for a good and fulfilling life. As well as being ambitious, your life partner should be invested in improving herself. From watching documentaries to travelling, she should enjoy improving her state of mind and investing in herself. This means she is less likely to be overly dependent on you, as she is equally dependent on herself.
- She is emotionally consistent.
The woman you should marry should be consistent, rather than volatile. If you struggle to predict your partner’s mood and responses, you may find yourself carrying the burden of your partner’s moods. Your partner shouldn’t transform into a more difficult person after a few months together; they should be fully honest about their feelings and emotional state. Some jealousy is natural in relationships, but the woman you marry should be secure enough in herself and you to know she doesn’t need to feel jealous. This is also to do with trust; she should be able to trust you enough to give you your freedom. Does she fight fairly? She doesn’t get excessively angry or mean-spirited, and she doesn’t bring up old issues or low blows just to hurt you. She might be mad, but she wants to work it out with you, so you talk about it like adults who love each other.
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